Sex outside of marriage is a lie. Not a lie as in “sex outside of marriage doesn’t exist” or “sex outside of marriage is not wrong after all.” No, what I mean is that sex outside of marriage is an attempt to tell yourself and others that you are something that you are not. Allow me to explain what I mean.
If you read about the first couple (Adam and Eve) from Genesis 2, you will see this unique and interesting passage in Genesis 2:24. It says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Do you see the phrase “become one flesh”? That means that the man and the woman become one person when they come together in a sexual relationship. When they are intimate together, they are declaring to the world that they have become one with each other. My wife and I are one because our souls and bodies are now knit together. Of course, they are not knit together like Bob and Walt (from Stuck On You), but you know what I mean.
Now, here is where the lie comes in. When you have a sexual relationship with someone, you are declaring to her (or him), yourself, and everyone you know that you are now one. But you aren’t really one, are you? It was just a temporary thing, even if you are in a long-term committed relationship. Basically, when you have sex before you get married, you are declaring to the world that you are a member of a club that you have not yet joined. It is the same as if you walked around wearing clothes from a particular college, talking about that college, acting like you are a student at that college, even though you’ve never been accepted or even applied to the school. Okay, I know my analogy falls a little short, but I think you can understand. Sex outside of marriage says you belong to something that you don’t. It makes you a liar. And funny how the world hates liars, but having sex is perfectly acceptable.
Don’t be a liar.